Do you always ask for what you want? My guess is “No.” Asking for what you want could be improved for most people.

3 Reasons why you don’t ask for what you really want.

1. You don’t know what you want.
You are used to going with the flow. Your mind is full of stories and limiting beliefs about why it is not good to ask for what you really want. For many, you learned this as a child and how you were to behave.
Your heart is shut-down, therefore you aren’t used to listening to what your heart and body are saying.
Don’t blame yourself for this. When you were young, you learned a lot of reasons why not. Gradually over time you forgot how to listen to your heart and body wisdom, maybe even told not to listen to your feelings.

2. You don’t know how to ask for what you want.
This can happen in your personal life with friends, family and kids. It can also happen in business with your staff, business associates or suppliers.

3. Afraid that you will be told “No”.
For many people being told no means rejection and most people don’t like rejection. There are some who have learned to re-frame it; to them no means next and one request closer to a “Yes”.

In my massage and coaching practice, I have seen people unable to communicate what they want or speak up for what works for them. This difficulty can show up negatively in many ways.

If you start asking for what you want and making requests it creates more clarity. Others will know where they stand. Direction is more specific, thereby creating less confusion, assumptions and potentially less disappointment.

There will be increased creativity and alignment which will positively manifest in relationships, communication, and business experiences.

A few tips to get started in asking for what you really want:

*Tune-in by going into your body with sensing and feeling what you desire. This could include doing a visualization, where you breathe, becoming calm and still then asking for what you desire.

*Start asking and speaking up. What I say to my clients is, “It’s ok if you don’t know the words to describe it. The words will come and they always do, even if it is a sensation that you aren’t used to describing, and that’s OK.
Voila, before long the words are there and you will feel much lighter and empowered.

*Set a goal each day to make 3 requests and make one of them really bold.

*If you get told “no” remember it is not personal. Breathe and go on.

When you don’t ask for what you really want, you aren’t fully living! Getting the fullness that life has to offer is like becoming visible when you’ve felt invisible, feeling stronger when before you were vulnerable, and being open to receiving all that fullness of life experiences and vibrancy. Be willing to take the risk.

I would love it if you would take this on and then share your experience with me below.