May 12, 2014 
tammy 
I have heard “Just Suck it Up,” a few times recently which saddens me deeply.
This is a term I was very familiar with when growing up and had a very negative effect on me.
How often do you say it to yourself or someone says it to you?
Ask yourself, “What does it really mean, how does it make me feel? What happens to my energy level?”
To me “Just Suck It Up” meant breathing it in and making it mine.
I noticed it me made me feel sad and powerless. Somewhere along the way I believe I was told, “It is just the way it is and there is nothing you can do about the situation.”
When you suck it up, like a vacuum, you take it in and allow it to take up residence in your body. Eventually over time this leads to aches and pains in the body, low energy, irritability and the list goes on.
Here are a few tips for you:
1. You don’t have to take it on.
Yes, listen and honor the request if necessary.
2. Next time, be aware of the thoughts and feelings that come with “Just Suck It Up”. What are some other possibilities of how you might like to feel?
3. Focus on taking nice deep relaxing breaths.
As you breathe, allow calmness, peace and positive supporting thoughts to fill your space.
4. What could you say or do next time other than to “Just Suck It Up?”
You may want to write a couple of new phrases and keep them handy for reminders.
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I have listened to people say different versions of that phrase. I believe in my personal power and the power of every person to create change. So, if I hear someone say that to me, I allow that to be the person´s opinion and not take it in. This can be great opportunity to recommit to my big vision and open up to receive inspiration to create the reality I desire. Love! XO
I had never heard this term until recently. Thankfully it wasn’t part of my upbringing. I would replace it with “It’s ok to allow your feelings and hear their messages”. x
You are ahead of the game Naomi. I have generally seen this in women in there 40’s plus, it is like they don’t know anything different.
Totally!! That’s a common phrase used to exert control. Naturally someone who truly wanted to see the humanity in any given situation wouldn’t say such a thing 🙂
True, however sometimes I have observed it in people in a way that they don’t know they have a choice.
Uh, wow. Damn. I think this one hit me like a punch to the gut, lol. I say this to myself ALLLLLLL the time! And I’ve never even thought about it. But you are so so right. It does me NO service to Hoover it up and hold on to it. I’m going to have to sit with this one for a bit…instead of telling myself to ‘suck it up’ I think I’ll simply ask if I can allow it to be, for now.
Good insight Brianna. You may also ask yourself what else can I do about the situation. It all begins with awareness.
It almost feels like my feelings are not valid whenever SUCK IT UP shows up. As if expressing myself was not acceptable and I had to make myself small or conform to make someone else comfortable. Screw it. Do what feels good to you. Thanks Tammy!
Yay Erika. yes we have a choice to not suck it up anymore.
Ahh, yes, a term I am very familiar with. I heard it a lot growing up. It makes me cringe and feel constricted and powerless. Now I like to turn it around, and instead of “just sucking it up”, get super clear on how I would PREFER it to be instead so I can create & manifest THAT instead. 🙂
So true, Jesse. I don’t like it when I hear people say to themselves to “just suck it up”.
“Suck it up” usually follows complaining – of which I have a strict pact with myself not to do! If I allow my negative emotion to come out into complaining, whining, etc… and someone catches me, then yeah, they are asking me to hold that in so as not to poison them with it! If, however, I feel myself wanting to complain, or stuffing a negative emotion down, I consciously get curious about the emotion (energy in motion), and help move it out and let it go. xo
Very cool Alix, a little curiosity can go a long way.
I think we suck things up only to later barf them out! At least that’s my case history. What about Just BLI$$ it up! Or dance it out! Or orgasmically transform it? I like these options better – I believe there’s always a choice. Thanks for bringing this up, love the conversation! But yes, sometimes if you stub your toe and don’t want to scream at a restaurant, I guess there are those certain times to suck it up 🙂